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2 Kings 1-3; John 3:22-36

Mothers of sons. I never had the responsibility of raising a boy to manhood.  I’m not sure how I would have done.  Though I was raised with two brothers, one older and the other younger, I doubt that qualifies me to discuss the unique relationship that exists.  However, talking with my brothers, my husband, and working as a counselor, I’ve heard many stories about the close versus distant, hovering versus neglectful, and healthy versus toxic relationship between mothers and sons.   Freud was not the first to correlate problems in grown men to the care given them as children by their mothers; Scripture also illustrates for us the powerful influence mothers have had on their sons.

Prophets and kings are made by mothers.  For example, Elijah, whose parents are never mentioned, just shows up at a time that Israel needs an intervention.  His words are from God, and he goes where he is sent by God. Peggy Drexler, MD wrote, “Years of research on families and parenting have shown me how successful moms raise self-assured and caring sons by nurturing their boy power – the artful combination of physicality and sensitivity to others’ needs and feelings, ” (http://www.peggydrexler.com/original/raisingconfidentsons.htm). 

The opposite kind of mothering can produce an entirely different kind of man.  Take Ahaziah, for instance.  His mother Athaliah who upon hearing that her son Ahaziah was dead, set off to kill all of his sons  (her grandchildren) so that she could become the Queen Mother.  Can you imagine what kind of mother she must have been to Ahaziah?  To please her, he followed the gods that she worshiped and caused all of Israel to do the same.  The power to influence her son is no surprise since we know that her infamous mother was Jezebel, instigator of her husband Ahab’s failures.

By the next king’s reign, that of Jehoram, God had prepared the heart of the prophet Elisha to be raised up for the task of opposing him.  We know something of how much Elisha honored his mother.  His first words to Elijah whom he was determined to follow were,  “Let me kiss my father and mother goodbye,” he said, “and then I will come with you,” (1 Kings 19:20). This shows respect, a quality that was important to his ministry.

King Jehoram’s claim to fame was simply stated that ‘he did evil in the sight of the Lord.’  His mother was also  Jezebel – go figure.

King Jehoshaphat, on the other hand, “walked in the way of his father Asa, and did not turn aside from it, doing what was right in the sight of the Lord.” (2 Chronicles 20:32)  His mother, Azubah, is one of the few mothers of Biblical characters who are mentioned, so it appears to me that she was an important influence for his living a godly life.

Two very important mothers in the New Testament are Mary the mother of Jesus, and Elizabeth the mother of John the Baptist. They passed on to their sons  a familial love that surpassed the natural reciprocity of earthly love.  These women were not extraordinary, but humble; they were strong, but obedient; they were righteous and gave God glory for their pregnancies.  Both mothers encouraged their sons to listen for God’s will and to act on it.  We read John’s words, “A man can receive nothing unless it has been given to him from heaven,” (John 3:27).  Again, Jesus testifies, “And what He has seen and heard, that He testifies” (John 3:32).

A mother’s influence on her son. So the legacy of an unloving mother is a distant, hypercritical son.  If the mother is smothering or enmeshed, the son may develop an insecure attachment and have avoidant issues, acting out behaviors, anger, aggression, hostility, or distress even in joyful situations,”  (May 7, 2013, Psychology Today. Streep, Peg. “Sons of Unloving Mothers: The Same Wounds and Then Some: It’s not just daughters who hurt.”)

Yet the legacy of a loving mother is one of respect according to Jen Smidt (2014, Resurgence, “10 Ways for Moms to Respect Their Sons”). ” A mother’s respect for her son is founded upon his image bearing of her heavenly Father and belief that God has given her a powerful gift to steward for a season.”

Happy Mother’s Day to all who are, have been, or would like to be.

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Genesis 43, Genesis 44, Genesis 45, Matthew 22:23-29

God sent me before you to preserve life. Genesis 45:5

Jesus answered and said to them, “You are mistaken, not knowing the Scriptures nor the power of God.” Matthew 22:29

 Please read at: www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Gen%2043,44,45;%20Mt%2022:23-29%20&version=NKJV

Passing the test the second time!

           The brothers of Joseph sold him into slavery, deceived their father, and showed no remorse, thus failing the first test.

             Many years later God presents a second test. The brothers go to Egypt because of famine, not knowing that Joseph is ruling. Joseph, still unrecognized, has Benjamin given five times their portion of food and commanded to be a slave. The brothers show no envy or jealousy during their meal and refuse to forsake Benjamin in Egypt, choosing to serve as slaves beside him. Their motive? “since (their father Jacob’s) life is bound up in the lad’s life, … For how shall I go up to my father if the lad is not with me, lest perhaps I see the evil that would come upon my father?”  Now they show compassion and protection for their father. What a vast difference!!

           It took15 + years for them to learn love and sacrifice for one another. The steps taken were acknowledging their sins against their father and Joseph, regret, sorrow and repentance. Producing right actions in times of testing.

Now the Reward: Joseph revealed! The Family Reunited in Love and Joy!!

Then Joseph could not restrain himself before all those who stood by him, and he cried out, … Joseph made himself known to his brothers.  And he wept aloud, … Then he fell on his brother Benjamin’s neck and wept, and Benjamin wept on his neck. Moreover he kissed all his brothers and wept over them, and after that his brothers talked with him.… I will provide for you, lest you and your household, and all that you have, come to poverty; for there are still five years of famine.”’

And back home… when they told (Israel/Jacob their father) all the words which Joseph had said to them, and when he saw the carts which Joseph had sent to carry him, the spirit of Jacob their father revived. Then Israel said, “It is enough. Joseph my son is still alive. I will go and see him before I die.”

Can’t you just hear the cries of delight and relief from each of them!? The grabbing, touching, exclaiming, and rich conversations! Vindication and intimacy! Now they will live with each other in the rich land which the Lord God Almighty provided for them!

             How much this is like the prodigal son!  But what if the brothers hadn’t changed? How would the family have functioned then? Continuously disjointed, dysfunctional and pain serving, yet with the added judgement by ruler Joseph? I think so.  

              I see this in my life today. My family, extended family and others. Self pride and centeredness causing injustice, neglect and abuse; Signs of perpetuating blindness and famine spiritually, and poverty in many areas. Yet a quick, deep and thorough surrender to the Supreme Lordship of the Ruler of the universe, the Lord Jesus Christ fixes it all with a Fabulous, Permanent Reunion!! Sin confessed, repented and given to Jesus allows for the Great Exchange, the receipt of forgiveness and the indwelling Holy Spirit forever!

             Oh, how hard it is to bend the knees of my heart to You sometimes. This is required for change, for reunions with You and Your body! I exalt You Jesus in my view so I know how foolish I am without You. Please Lord Jesus, enable, equip and empower me to See Your Hand in All things. I choose to implement Your wisdom, understanding and patience. Keep me alert to Your Scriptures and Your Power Lord God, so that I may know specifically Your way for me, not sin against You, and move by Your Power alone. Make me effective everywhere I am for Your Kingdom purposes and glory. And have me to not look elsewhere to condemn, but to myself for Your discipling and healing me simultaneously, which is Your method. Lord God Almighty, thank You for reunions! The promise of permanent salvation, the eternal home of Your Presence, fantastic fellowship with believers and tangible mansions!!!  

Further reading –    Genesis 37:12-36; Genesis 39-41; 2 Corinthians 7:9-10; Luke 3:8; Luke 15:11-24; 2 Corinthians 1:22; 1 John 1:9; Luke 5:24; Luke 23:43; Psalm 51; Acts 1:8; Romans 15:13; 2 Timothy 1:7; Galatians 5:16-26; Ephesians 4:30; Ephesians 6:12; Galatians 6:8; Psalm 25:4; Psalm 86:11; Psalm 119:33; Isaiah 2:3; Isaiah 48:17; Proverbs 3:5-14; Psalm 119:11; John 8:31-36  

AND Romans 8:1; 2 Corinthians 5:17; Romans 6:23; Revelation 21:3; John 14:2-3

Crystal (PsalmThirty4)


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2Kings 10,11; 2Tim. 1; Hos. 2; Ps.119:97-120

Coffee drinking and spending early hours sampling commentary on 2 Timothy 1. Remarking on the role of a grandmother and mother’s faith–its influence on Timothy. A God-given Spirit of love, power and self-discipline.  The gift of the Gospel and Paul’s suffering from embracing it. He was not ashamed of his faith or message–he saw himself as herald, apostle and teacher.

Guard the good deposit that was entrusted to you—guard it with the help of the Holy Spirit who lives in us. 2 Timothy 1:14 (NIV)

Reflecting on this scripture to guard the deposit entrusted in me: I cannot guard something if I am weak. Strength comes from training; and in this case, training involves spending time with God in his Word, in prayer, and in putting his love to work in my life by following him. God gives me the Holy Spirit to live in me for self-discipline, power (to do this) and love. What grace!

Father, I joyfully embrace you and the message of the Gospel. Thank you for empowering me to be disciplined and to love through the Holy Spirit. Why do I rely so often on my own (weak) power when I have access to grace? When I think of the legacy I leave, the children under my care and influence, I am grateful for Paul’s words of herald, apostle, teacher. Help me to see myself as these as well, to mentor those around me for your glory. I want to draw closer to you. I pray that I continue to strengthen my walk with you by seeking you daily in your Word, in prayer and in action.

Courtney (66books365)

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